How to Love a Sagittarius Woman

“She will set you free… Free from the past. Free from expectations. Free from judgement. She will see what lies the deepest in your soul and pull it to the surface. No stone left unturned. In that mess, she sees beauty, intrigue, and the potential to start anew. It’s up to you to decide if it is worth the chase.”

To love a Sagittarius woman — without reservation — takes a patient heart, for though she can be caught, she cannot be tamed.

The lust in her being runs deep. A thirst for moving, making, and thinking that can’t be satisfied by the mundane. Like a drug, it beckons. She’s addicted to the unknown. It’s a secret she wants to uncover for herself.

She trusts no one to crack the code. Any insistence that one knows the truth makes her restless. The journey is part of the satisfaction. The easy answer ruins her fix. Reality is questionable. To her, anything could be unknown. There is simply too much out there yet to be seen. To not see beyond the horizon brings an uncertain thrill — her energy awakened.

To love her is to chase her around the globe. Physically, spiritually, or otherwise. You may feel that she is 5 paces ahead — she is. She wants it that way. She wants to be won. She wants to be adored. The assertion that she has all the answers, illusion or not, puts her in the driver’s seat. For some, it is a dangerous ride. For others, no amount of bumps or twists and turns will cast them out. Her story is just too good not to follow.

Everything that is unique about you becomes a puzzle for her to solve. She aims to make sense of the brokenness, the hurt, the hard edges, the depth behind the eyes.

She aims to see what you don’t see. Loving her means being more vulnerable than you have ever wanted to be. It means being as vulnerable as you were made to be. It means letting her see the ugliness, and being willing to see your reflection.

What will you allow her to see, touch, and dissect? What questions will you let her answer? What walls will you let her break down? What new foundation will you let her build up?

As fierce and independent as her spirit is, her insecurity lies in being comfortable. She is restless in mediocrity. She feels queasy in complacency. She is angered by indifference. She is often faced with the fear that she indebted to the status quo. She has no patience for those who coast through life — and for those that are turned off by life’s complexities. Sex, politics, religion — nothing is taboo. To follow her dreams means to break the rules. But to break the rules means to risk being caged or punished — a sentence worse than physical death.

She is not hot in temper, but she is more feeling than she will let on. To be seen through-and-through is one of her greatest aspirations, but also one of her greatest vulnerabilities. If she lets you look within, do not betray her. There is nothing more painful to her than being truly seen, and then being cast aside or misunderstood.

She does not need a vast field of space. In fact, in many ways, closeness is her fuel. Recognize her for her accomplishments. Hold her close, but not too tight. Love her physically and deeply and aggressively and authentically. When she is ready to let you in, she will tell you. If you come in, you are a welcomed guest.

A small idea can go a long way and she will run with it… Far, and often without distant vision. Her idealism can get the best of her. But opposition can be the snuff to her flame.

In this, there is a tightrope-thin balance. You can be her raving fan, or her most conniving opponent. If your heart is on board, she will love you to the edges of the world. If you stifle her, she may never forgive it. You must love her heart’s cries as much as you love her — but stay strong. Be the voice of reason and support that helps carry her ideas to completion.

There are many things about herself that she won’t understand. She is comfortable in this, as discovering these mysteries are part of the journey. To love her is to allow her to solve the puzzle.

A gracious suggestion or gentle nudge is all she needs. She is at the precipice. She will jump into the depths on her own and love the thrill. A shove off the edge ruins the ride.

Some hearts will grow weary of the chase. It can be a long, uncertain road. You may lose each other along the way. If she loves you, the breadcrumbs of assurance will be there. A perceptive eye will see them. Your turn. Your move. Is she far ahead — or pacing herself? Is she at arms length — or strides ahead? If she is within reach, you have already won her heart.

You will want to pull her to you, but will be surprised when she stands steadfast. What are her reservations, you ask. Are your intentions pure? Are you testing her commitment or sincerity? She can sense it. Second-guessing her depth of feelings with only lead to insecurity in her chest. A bad taste at the back of the tongue. A single word at the edge of her lips: run.

Trust will take you far. Trust that like a boomerang, she returns. Trust that she means every word, every move.

Blunt. Unapologetic. Honest. Kind. Virtues that don’t often go together. You will love her tenderness but also her tenacity. A steady push and pull like waves against the shore — at once casting their mass against the rocks, and then pulling you closer, inward to the sea with a faithful grasp.

Her mind is alive in the silence. Physical space left unfilled. Mental and spiritual space filled to the brim. Intention overflowing.

Her eyes turn to the future, not as often to the past. There may be pain there. In the past she may find her Why. The thrill is in solving those questions through an endless journey. The past is what she was, the future is what she will be. That is of more interest to her. Draw her back and she loses sight of her idealized self. She is then lost. And she will resent the distraction, questioning, and doubt.

To love a Sagittarius woman is to love her process. It’s to see the purpose in her wilderness and in her energy. To love her is to be her confidant, support, lover, and dearest ally.